Love is a beautiful feeling; everybody has experienced it at least once in their lifetime and yet not understood well. Is it infatuation, attraction, lust or attachment? As per evolutionary psychology and evolutionary biology, love is 55% chemical reaction; you can call it anything from comfort to convenience.
The scientific theory of love
When you meet somebody new for the first time and feel instantly connected or attracted to them, it is because of the same structure of serotonin. The couple who falls in love at first sight, their a serotonin structure that is somehow the same, and they look at each other as a perfect sex partner or ideal for reproducing healthy children.
Another chemical which is thought to be important in love relations is oxytocin. It is a chemical which is released after orgasm. That means the more satisfying sex; the couple does, the stronger their relationship gets. It is the same chemical released after childbirth, which is also responsible for mother-child love. Couples with high oxytocin tend to stick together for longer and raise children.
Can these chemicals be responsible for love relationships being broken? After understanding the love chemicals and how they affect our body and mood, I positively feel YES, this is it. A couple, who is not satisfied sexually, cannot stay together for long. Either they cheat on each other, make arrangements, or leave each other for different partners. If we understand these chemical reactions and accept them as scientific, then I am sure this will certainly help you to regain from heartache too and move on with your life faster with no guilt or anger.
How to recover from a broken heart?
If we understand love scientifically, we don’t feel any anger or guilt. If you and your partner are not fit sexually due to the chemicals your body produces is not your fault and certainly not your partner’s.
The next thing to keep in mind is to find a new partner who is more compatible with you sexually and emotionally. Falling in love and pretending to be in love are two different things. In this materialistic world, most couples pretend to be in love because it suits them socially, but if you think of love scientifically, then you realize love is real.
Because when you are in love, you cannot think of anyone else except your partner, which is proven scientifically. When you are in love, your body produces a high level of serotonin. You get adrenaline, dry mouth, and heart beat faster.
Don’t get mistaken for love.
Look at the body language, not the words. In love, 55% is chemical, 38% is body language, and words are only 7%. So my advice to everyone looking for true love concentrates more on the body language of you and your partner. Words can be deceiving, so don’t fall for them and get cheated by someone who doesn’t have serotonin of your type.